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Blog entry #7: Psychodynamic Development

1) Ask one of your parents or primary caregiver a story about their childhood. Of how they were raised by their parents. Or perhaps a funny story that reflects their childhood. Reflect on how this has affected their parenting style and how they relate with you. - My father was raised under very neglected circumstances. He was born a middle child and was the least favorite child in his family. He was often compelled to do a lot of housework like cooking, cleaning, feeding the animals, and taking care of his younger siblings. He was the greatest achiever in the family, but also the most ignored. Whenever he had a low score, his mother would not even give him dinner, though his father was very relaxed so he liked his father a lot more. My father definitely wanted to take more from his father in raising me, but also takes after his mother when disciplining his children 2) What do you think are some intergenerational patterns that run in your family? Do you find them helpful or not? Why...
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Blog Entry# 6: Evaluation of your Self-care/Emotion Regulation Challenge

Well, the activity was... interesting, so to speak. Though it did not personally work for me, I can see how it works for others. Trying to concretize a negative feeling and then banishing it to represent letting go of such emotions is a legitimate tactic in my point of view. Though it did not work, I feel like it set me in the right direction. Instead of concretizing my emotions, I will let them surface rather than suppressing them, to acknowledge them and identify them and to attempt to try and address them for emotional health. As much as the activity was interesting, it probably wasn't what I needed, but regardless, it set me in the right direction and I appreciate that.
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Blog Entry#5: Emotion Regulation and Self-Care

Well as a person with low self-compassion, I can say that my strength is that I do not diminish or belittle the suffering of others. I acknowledge that they are in trouble and try not to make it look less bad than it seems. However, my greatest tendency and weakness is that I isolate myself from others. In the face of problems, I do not approach anyone, and in fact, avoid people, afraid to bother them and in the process, making my problems smaller and downplaying it to avoid concern or attention. For this week, or should I say, two weeks ago, I should extend kindness to myself to prevent myself from feeling self-loathing and self-critical. I am working to try and strengthen my self-nurturing aspect rather than my self-critical tendencies. It will be difficult but I feel it will be the first step towards a more positive outlook and a better self-image. I should probably eat better and also not forget to take care of myself amidst all the hard work.
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Blog Entry #4: Feeling and Thinking Self

What struck me about this week's discussion is how a lot of how we think is beyond our control, how we make judgements or first impressions, are all based on some instinctive bias rather than something we consciously think of, which is possible but very hard to do. In a way, it is really easy to think that we are in control of ourselves but in reality, a lot about us cannot be controlled, our biases and prejudice, and our emotions are simply things that happen that we can't prevent or stop, because they are simply beyond our control. It puts things into a whole new perspective where instead of trying to stop or confront things beyond our control, we try instead to work around them, accepting them instead of rejecting them. This is what struck me, how realizing that such things are beyond control can bring so much peace to one person.
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Blog Entry #3: Loob and Feeling Self

How in touch are you with your feeling self? Do you allow yourself to feel unpleasant emotions or do you immediately shut them off? How so? What is the effect if you do that? Not very good. I rarely let myself feel emotions and shut them off. I don't like showing weakness, and I see showing unpleasant emotions as a weakness because I let people know that I'm having a hard time. It is pretty responsible for why I tend to do things on my own, but I often find myself shifting under the weight of my problems. On the surface I may seem like a cool person who has everything under control, but truth is, I don't, and I'm too afraid to ask people for help.
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Blog Entry #2: PPCT Model

Well so I am a sexually mature adult male of 18 years with primarily Asian features, a lean build, and a height of 176 cm or 5'9" feet. I am a person with skills in critical thinking and analysis, a fairly competent debater and a person who loves to research facts, I have skills in humor and general creative ventures such as Photoshop and Creative Writing. I am from a semi-wealthy family with parents who are active and genuinely concerned with my well-being with a fairly good education. Unfortunately, I was a quite shy and reserved kid and often was picked on for my timidness and peaceful demeanor. So far, I don't have very expansive experiences. I am also a very mild-tempered, lazy, depressed, and not very persistent on the surface, but I can suddenly change my attitude if it's something I'm truly passionate about. People generally see me as a sort of intimidating guy, probably from my looks or stature or my general idle expression but once they know me I sort o...
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Blog Entry #1: Inside Out - Understanding Emotions

Inside Out is a movie that tries to convey a story through a fun and creative look inside the minds of people and what they're thinking. It's a movie that follows the journey of Riley and her attempts to understand her own emotions before they get out of hand. Three things in this movie struck me the most, first of all being Bing Bong's 'death', Sadness' taking control and the control system inside Riley's head becoming more complex at the end of the movie. Well to elaborate, Bing Bong's death alongside all the old memories of Riley's childhood is a powerful symbol of us unconsciously or consciously dropping things from our past as we mature, for better or for worse. Sadness taking control is a powerful message that even our negative emotions are important, mostly because it signals to others what we are feeling and that we need help with whatever is causing us distress. The emotional control panel in Riley's mind becoming bigger and more compl...
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